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the stress is real

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this week so far has been so eventful and it isn't even half over :(

First, I decided to quit college. While I do love cooking, I'm starting to lapse and not know what I want to do anymore. I thought I should get out whilst I can before it goes down on my record as something that looks far worse later down the line.

Second, my mum basically told me it's time I move out (which I agree with, but I was hoping it would be of my own accord like early next year). Looking for flats that I can actually afford the rent for is... Ugh, well. Unless I want a shared flat (I do not) I'm sooooo limited in my area. I could branch out and go elsewhere, but I'd be leaving A LOT behind, including family, my boyfriend and friends.

And lastly, the job hunt is becoming ever more difficult. I'm applying like mad for full time work, and getting nowhere. Which is kinda expected but also disheartening. I would've really liked to have got the bartending job I applied for that paid a pretty penny, but I was ultimately rejected D:

So yeah. It's all getting on top of me tbh. But the prospect of moving out is exciting to me. I knoe education is open to me anytime, so I'm not stressing about that at all. I just wanna go and be my own person.
 

El Héroe Oscuro

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It's okay to be confused about what you want to do in life. I spent 2 years of my life studying to be a Nurse and then decided to opt out of that for Human Services. I actually took a leave of absence from my uni by staying at home for a semester to get a good grasp on what I actually wanted to do with my life, so don't feel like it's bad to feel confused as to what you want to do. Everyone goes through that phase - the average student changes their major 3/4 times anyways, so don't beat yourself over it.

I don't think that you should give up on school. That's just my personal belief. A college degree will get you far, so I don't think you should give up just yet. I know there are a lot of events happening in your life in which you need to take account for; you should probably talk to your mum about waiting to move out until you've settled down on a job, just so you don't get stuck in financial woes. However, what's most important right now is your health. Take a minute, take a deep breath, and just relax. Things are going to be a-okay; just tackle each task one step at a time.
 
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El Héroe Oscuro;bt99954 said:
It's okay to be confused about what you want to do in life. I spent 2 years of my life studying to be a Nurse and then decided to opt out of that for Human Services. I actually took a leave of absence from my uni by staying at home for a semester to get a good grasp on what I actually wanted to do with my life, so don't feel like it's bad to feel confused as to what you want to do. Everyone goes through that phase - the average student changes their major 3/4 times anyways, so don't beat yourself over it.

I don't think that you should give up on school. That's just my personal belief. A college degree will get you far, so I don't think you should give up just yet. I know there are a lot of events happening in your life in which you need to take account for; you should probably talk to your mum about waiting to move out until you've settled down on a job, just so you don't get stuck in financial woes. However, what's most important right now is your health. Take a minute, take a deep breath, and just relax. Things are going to be a-okay; just tackle each task one step at a time.

My personal plan is to work for a few years in an environment that will aid my eventual career path - which is psychology and counseling, eventually social work - so I may be getting a job as an assistant social worker and be trained in it so I can get the experience early, which will put me in a better light of starting a degree in a few years. I feel like I've rushed through life and confused myself, so I feel like I need to start over and take it slow. Sure, It'll take me a few more years to get where I want to be, but it'll all be worth it in the end.

I'm gonna work for a few months THEN move out (unless there is some housing support I can apply for, which there might be). I need some financial backing first, but I've got a lot of support and I won't leave home with nothing, as I have bought every piece of furniture in my room and my mum has told me to look for community projects to get free good quality furniture until I can afford better. So all in all, I'm ok. I'll get there, I have no doubt about it. Thank you for your input though. It's nice to hear how other people have coped with similar situations.
 
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Just keep job hunting. It took me a few months every time to find something, but you will eventually. Once you have a job you will find it is not very difficult to find somewhere to live, pay for furniture etc. Wages are reasonably good in the UK if it's full time work.

Housing benefit is not possible for you unless your parents legally throw you out of the house, and then you will be set up in the shabbiest neighbourhood of town. Not a route I would recommend.

Don't set your expectations for a job too high yet. Literally apply for everything you are elligible for. Once you have a job you can still continue looking for a better one.
 
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