I mean, /a/ definitely was memeing, /r/anime has huge variance from thread to thread (and several other anime communities on Reddit definitely are memeing), and YouTube comments.
I've legit only heard of Digibro of those 3. Each of the latter two has less than 70k subs. I can think of at least 4, maybe 5 anime YouTubers just off the top of my head that have more subs than Digi, FYI.
Besides, your statement was that men just don't get those shows, which is decidedly incorrect, especially since men are the target audience of those shows.