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    Doesn't focusing on marginalized groups as "marginalized groups" reinforce the perception that they are marginalized to some extent?

    That's... the point? How is this a bad thing you need to expand upon it.

    In order to fix something you need to see it as a problem, but when your approach is to a part instead of to the whole, that could be divisive and exacerbate tensions (which we see in this thread) instead of resolving them.

    The issue is that men don't need things that they exclusively need help with - Feminism focuses on women because the way women/men are treated in society is intertwined due to our gender roles and how they work together in the first place.

    also @ the person who said "go back to tumblr" now I'm laughing at you because you're literally telling people to go back to one of the few places on the internet where they can have these opinions so you're basically saying "Go back to where people won't treat you like ♥♥♥♥" gg.
     

    Corvus of the Black Night

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    That's... the point? How is this a bad thing you need to expand upon it.

    The issue is that men don't need things that they exclusively need help with - Feminism focuses on women because the way women/men are treated in society is intertwined due to our gender roles and how they work together in the first place.
    Are you ♥♥♥♥ing kidding me? Men don't need things that they exclusively need help with? Did you read the 5 ♥♥♥♥ing issues that men have (which is nowhere near a comprehensive list)? You're already starting off by segregating women from men by saying that women's problems are more important. Kanzler is saying that by saying that one is more important than the other you're still marginalizing them.

    To quote myself again
    Then why do you object throwing this privilege ♥♥♥♥ out the window and looking at the problems for what they are and targeting all inequality? What crime is it to actually view each person as a person who deserves equal rights as a human being? Feminism started off with this premise and it has dissolved with many people.


    also @ the person who said "go back to tumblr" now I'm laughing at you because you're literally telling people to go back to one of the few places on the internet where they can have these opinions so you're basically saying "Go back to where people won't treat you like ♥♥♥♥" gg.
    tumblr, land where if you're white, or straight, or cis, or male, is where you'll be crucified like a mother♥♥♥♥er and have people harass you off the site. Yep, real nice environment there. Anyways people probably would be nice to you for the sheer fact that you pretty much claim privilege is the only reason that we should support feminism because "historically women have it harder than men". Please shut up.

    Also, for people's information.

    Read this.
     

    Star-Lord

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    This is changing however. To refuse to accept this change implies that you are failing to recognize the changes and advancements people have made.

    hmm i sure do wonder which social movements led to that.


    Then why do you object throwing this privilege ♥♥♥♥ out the window and looking at the problems for what they are and targeting all inequality? What crime is it to actually view each person as a person who deserves equal rights as a human being? Feminism started off with this premise and it has dissolved with many people.

    I have absolutely no idea where you're getting that I don't respect everybody as a human being or whatever in your latter part. And I don't throw privilege out the window because... people live and have different experiences based on what their identity is... this isn't an insanely hard concept.

    The frank reality is that issues exist for both genders, and just because one gender has more doesn't mean that their inequalities are more important. Everyone faces unfair inequalities every day. This isn't a race for "the person who's more oppressed".

    You're taking what I'm saying and running the wrong way with it. I've never said that men's inequalities are less important, because that is not the case. I'm saying that women have more, and since they are linked together with those of men, it makes more sense to focus on women because in the end we will achieve and end result where everyone is safe.

    You're not doing much to prove yourself otherwise.

    There are people who say all penis in vagina sex is rape on tumblr so I'd like to think that I'm nowhere near as delusional.

    Are you ♥♥♥♥ing kidding me? Men don't need things that they exclusively need help with? Did you read the 5 ♥♥♥♥ing issues that men have (which is nowhere near a comprehensive list)? You're already starting off by segregating women from men by saying that women's problems are more important. Kanzler is saying that by saying that one is more important than the other you're still marginalizing them.


    Men and women's issues are interconnected because of gender roles in society. Lemme break down in 2 ways where I can show this:

    1. Child Custody - Men receive less support because women are seen as more "nurturing" and that they will have more chance to take care of the child properly. This is false; feminism believes that these gender roles are wrong and would like to see Child Custody be seen as an equal share based on what is happening in the individual family itself.
    2. The legal definition of rape - This is a problem that occurs because our society is uneducated on rape as a topic. If we can hardly take it seriously when women accuse a sexual assault (Getting asked what they were wearing, if it really happened, if they're just accusing someone) then how are we supposed to take male victims seriously, and consequently have a legal definition of rape that is accurate?




    tumblr, land where if you're white, or straight, or cis, or male, is where you'll be crucified like a mother♥♥♥♥er and have people harass you off the site.

    translation: i have never been on tumblr before in my life

    (People do get harassed off the website but the vast majority of people condemn these actions)

    Please shut up.

    No.

    Also, for people's information.

    Read this.

    Everyone should read this! Gender issues for both men and women are really important :) Feminism is trying to help in that regard.
     
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    Are you ♥♥♥♥ing kidding me? Men don't need things that they exclusively need help with? Did you read the 5 ♥♥♥♥ing issues that men have (which is nowhere near a comprehensive list)? You're already starting off by segregating women from men by saying that women's problems are more important. Kanzler is saying that by saying that one is more important than the other you're still marginalizing them.

    To expand on that, it's hard for people to treat "marginalized groups" as normal when they're being labelled as marginalized and treated as other. I think the end-goal is to have "marginalized groups" integrated with the rest of society and treated as normal, yes? Or at least be able to treat them as female/queer/race etc etc without fear of offending or victimizing them. There's a certain member who's gay but I never feel that the label marginalizes him, he really does a good job of defining himself, by iunno, being himself. I only hope that it could be the same for many others.
     

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    Oh boy, now you're opening a whole different can of worms. I do find it interesting, though, that you support a version of feminism that is in essence advocating for the denial of a woman's right to decide her own medical treatment. Now I really don't wish to get into the topic of abortion, because that is not what this thread is about, but it is a proven fact that 70% of all conceptions result in spontaneous abortions (aka miscarriage). I know there are some laws on the books in some places that actually criminalize spontaneous abortions if it is determined that a woman's lifestyle possibly was in part responsible for the miscarriage occurring, and I know some are advocating that a woman who is pregnant and who is deemed to be engaging in behaviour that could potentially be harmful to an growing fetus, be incarcerated and whatever steps necessary to protect the fetus be taken, including, but not limited to strapping a woman down to a bed until she delivers the baby.

    So what do you do then? Are women who conceive a child but then suffer a miscarriage, in your opinion, guilty of murder, since a miscarriage is a form of abortion, only it is decided by the body not the woman consciously? Would you advocate the detention and possible restraining of a woman to a bed in order to protect the growing fetus, which 70% of the time may abort anyway?

    Your version of feminism is precisely the kind of danger I alluded to in a previous post.

    I like what a friend of mine said, who is a feminist. She said to a bunch of anti-abortionists, "If you don't have a uterus, stay out of mine!"

    I agree with her. We would be far better off if we stopped sticking our noses where they don't belong. I think our lives are complicated enough without us trying to complicate it further by trying to dictate to others how they should live their lives.

    It's not about sticking our noses into other people's "business" it's about defending the Right of Life. The way pro-choice people talk about their stance has reminded me of the way pro-slavery people used State Rights here in the U.S. as their excuse for why the federal government should stay out... I beleive that when someone's life is in danger one should step in and do something, not stand back and say "it's none of my business." Pro-choice people say that fetuses aren't living being in order to dehumanized them, just like how racists called blacks and others "sub-human", and sexists called women "inferior". By the way while I may be a men there are women who agree with my views, as can be seen by the early female feminists and the modern day pro-life feminist movement.


    Also...you shouldn't have mentioned miscaraged as abortion...as that's far different...trust me...I've had family experienced it...
     
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    It's not about sticking our noses into other people's "business" it's about defending the Right of Life. The way pro-choice people talk about their stance has reminded me of the way pro-slavery people used State Rights here in the U.S. as their excuse for why the federal government should stay out... I beleive that when someone's life is in danger one should step in and do something, not stand back and say "it's none of my business." Pro-choice people say that fetuses aren't living being in order to dehumanized them, just like how racists called blacks and others "sub-human", and sexists called women "inferior". By the way while I may be a men there are women who agree with my views, as can be seen by the early female feminists and the modern day pro-life feminist movement.


    Also...you shouldn't have mentioned miscaraged as abortion...as that's far different...trust me...I've had family experienced it...

    I said I'm not going to get into an abortion debate, and I'm not. If you want to talk about abortions, I would suggest starting a separate thread on the topic. I don't think this is the thread for such a discussion.
     

    twocows

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    The key thing to remember is that feminism is a very broad term that means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. I don't think it's possible to have a sane discussion about it without breaking down what you mean by it.

    Personally, I take issue with the word itself. It's basically "female-ism." Proponents try to say that it advocates equality, but the word itself suggests otherwise. That's why I prefer the term "egalitarianism" if that's what you really mean.

    I don't have the time nor the mental fortitude to read through all 90+ posts in this thread, so I'll address a few things I saw in the first several.
    Feminism is the former, and the latter is obviously something that needs to be taught. 0___o
    I think the point was that certain segments are advocating teaching it specifically to men. Rape is wrong universally. Singling out men is extremely demeaning to men and reinforces, to a degree, a very problematic and obviously untrue notion: that men can't be raped by women.

    I think most people figure out that rape is unethical as a matter of course, but if it's something that's going to be "taught," it should be taught to everyone and not with an emphasis on male-on-female rape (and probably as a larger curriculum on ethics in general, since rape is a form of coercion, which is unethical 9 times out of 10 anyway.

    I'm sorry but if someone doesn't think that feminism is necessary in the western world then they are a moron. There is no question about it. Feminism as a concept attacks the double-edged notion of gender roles among other things. I've given up on trying to entertain those who sincerely doubt the impact and importance of feminism.
    Feminism's a very broad term. There are a lot of people, like me, who would simply ask what you mean by it. There are some who assume you mean something you probably don't mean. And then there are others who are legitimately sexist. You're being unfair to the first two groups and for the third, I'd suggest reading this. You'll never convince anyone of your beliefs if you do nothing but demonize anyone who espouses the opposing viewpoint, and insulating yourself with others who agree with you will change nothing.

    lmao, i'm a radical feminist, and i would like to know your sources for those claims.

    it's a bit funny how it was stated that radical feminists "has introduced concepts such as patriarchy" as though these are recent topics -- even before the advent of radical feminism (which was in the 1980s to 1990s), the concept of a patriarchy was already much established in formal feminist analyses and critiques. if anything, the perception that the concept of patriarchy was recently established only shows that contemporary "feminists" are moving away from the already-established political body and movement. it also shows that the word "feminism" has become a sort of umbrella term for anything that suggests equality between the sexes and female ""empowerment,"" rather than a political movement that relies on critical analyses of gender, sex-based oppression and, yes, patriarchy.

    and to answer the main question, yes, it's still relevant. i can't speak for people living in western societies given that i'm not a westerner myself, but even given *legal* equality, one can't say that we are already living in a post-patriarchal, liberated society -- a society is made up much more than it's laws, and i think that's obvious enough. that there exists a differential treatment between the sexes in terms of roles and socialisation, that there exists structures of power (religious institutions, etc.) that seek to police the bodies and behaviour of one or both sexes, only shows that the problem is social and cultural, and will take much more than a few legislations can fix.
    First, what do you mean by "patriarchy?" Because the word "patriarchy," as far as I understand it, literally means "a society led by men." It's true a lot of our political leaders are men, but that could just indicate a lack of will by women to get into politics. I can't say I blame them.

    But what people seem to mean by this is that there is a systemic favoring of men over women. I hardly think this is true. It is true that there are some constructs in society that favor men over women, and I think we need to fix those. The converse is also true: there are some constructs in society that favor women over men, and we need to fix those, too.

    I think you're misunderstanding what people mean by "radical feminism" because it's nearly as vague as the word "feminism" itself is. We're talking about the ideas like "women's issues are the only important issues" or "anyone who suggests a supposed issue isn't an issue is sexist." Stuff like that. There seem to be more of these people lately and it's unfortunate.

    There's another issue that I think plays into "radical feminism" and it's this whole idea of every single thing needing to respect women. There are certain things that won't respect women, and that's fine. Fictive works, where the world is mostly likely grounded in some way in our own, and nobody would be able to relate if it didn't share the same kinds of problems ours has. Historical works, where it's merely describing what has already happened. Comedy, where offensive jokes are often self-ridiculing or making a larger point. And private conversations (which nobody else has any business listening to anyway), where people are often either expressing first (often instinctive) reactions to something or just joking. All of these things, they are not areas where anyone should be focusing their efforts, and despite that, a lot of people do. This kind of thing borders on thought-policing, really, and I think that only serves to work against their ultimate goal (or what it should be: equal opportunity and fair treatment).
     
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    I consider myself a feminist. I come to this conclusion because, although the ultimate goal is for everyone to be treated without prejudice or bias, there's more work that needs to be done to undo the greater amount of discrimination against women than there is to men. I would like to say I'm an egalitarian, but I don't want to insinuate that there is an equal amount of problems or issues for women and men, or at least that if there are an equal number that they negatively affect women and men to the same degree. For instance, yes, it's true that anyone can potentially rape anyone, but for some reason(s) men overwhelmingly are the perpetrators and that shouldn't be ignored. The whole "teach men not to rape" is a response to the idea that women are/should be responsible to keep themselves from being raped, i.e., that it's women's fault that they get raped, which isn't true. "Teach men not to tape" may not be the perfect approach, but I think it moves the conversation away from where it isn't doing any good.

    The patriarchy term is, I believe, used to describe a society that generally favors men and/or promotes a kind of male-centric view, in particular, the use of "the patriarchy" is used to claim that we already are in a patriarchy and to establish this as a given before engaging in discussion. Of course people will feel differently about how strongly "the patriarchy" is in society, but I think it's important to note that it's not a term limited to "men have it better" but that it has certain aspects that are damaging to men and to women, such as the whole "boys don't cry" idea, which teaches boys not to express their emotions.
     

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    Honestly, as twocows says, people; define your terms!
    Really a lot of the discussions in here are based on some misunderstanding of each other's definitions of feminism.

    Esper, I don't agree with your definition of an egalitarian. Egalitarians don't see the issues being of equal quantity nor importance, but rather focuses on the end product being equality, which ideally should be worked towards from both sides of the spectrum.

    Also, I don't think that equality should necessarily be our end goal, but rather the individuality, and the individual's right to be different. Some women would rather stay at home to look after her kids of she wants to without others calling her oppressed, and likewise should she be allowed to do business all day and become a billionaire. I see the goal being equal possibilities for everyone, but individual adaptations of this master plan.
     

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    The key thing to remember is that feminism is a very broad term that means a lot of different things to a lot of different people. I don't think it's possible to have a sane discussion about it without breaking down what you mean by it.

    This.

    I think the point was that certain segments are advocating teaching it specifically to men. Rape is wrong universally. Singling out men is extremely demeaning to men and reinforces, to a degree, a very problematic and obviously untrue notion: that men can't be raped by women.

    I think most people figure out that rape is unethical as a matter of course, but if it's something that's going to be "taught," it should be taught to everyone and not with an emphasis on male-on-female rape (and probably as a larger curriculum on ethics in general, since rape is a form of coercion, which is unethical 9 times out of 10 anyway.

    Certainly rape is committed by both sexes, and is always wrong. It is also true, as far as we know, that men are much more likely to force themselves upon women than the other way around. It makes sense to target the education to those that need educating.

    The point that was a source of a minor conflict earlier is that we should be sure that we are not making broad and baseless assertions when addressing the issue (e.g. implicitly stating that all men are rapists deep down).


    First, what do you mean by "patriarchy?" Because the word "patriarchy," as far as I understand it, literally means "a society led by men." It's true a lot of our political leaders are men, but that could just indicate a lack of will by women to get into politics. I can't say I blame them.

    But what people seem to mean by this is that there is a systemic favoring of men over women. I hardly think this is true. It is true that there are some constructs in society that favor men over women, and I think we need to fix those. The converse is also true: there are some constructs in society that favor women over men, and we need to fix those, too.

    I think it's important to differentiate dominator hierarchies with natural hierarchies. It is often believed that all hierarchy is bad and must be removed to make culture-society better. Which ignores not only that hierarchy is the very basis of all evolution, biological or otherwise (the human body itself is a particularly complex hierarchy), but also ignores that attempting to wipe out all hierarchy is itself a domination of others - the very thing that was supposed to be eliminated.

    Feminists are not the only group of people guilty of this misconception, nor are all individual feminists guilty of it. But it does seem to be prevalent within the movement.


    For instance, yes, it's true that anyone can potentially rape anyone, but for some reason(s) men overwhelmingly are the perpetrators and that shouldn't be ignored. The whole "teach men not to rape" is a response to the idea that women are/should be responsible to keep themselves from being raped, i.e., that it's women's fault that they get raped, which isn't true. "Teach men not to tape" may not be the perfect approach, but I think it moves the conversation away from where it isn't doing any good.

    I want to take objection to one thing here: women have a responsibility to keep themselves out of dangerous situations, just as men have a responsibility not to create those situations. You can't always control your environment, but you can always choose to act differently.
     
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    I want to take objection to one thing here: women have a responsibility to keep themselves out of dangerous situations, just as men have a responsibility not to create those situations. You can't always control your environment, but you can always choose to act differently.

    I see where you're coming from with regards to the notion of taking responsibility for the state you get yourself in but to apply this to rape is wrong. You just can't compare it to getting jacked/tripping over and smashing your nose because of your drinking, for example. It takes personal violation to a level beyond which personal accountability can be accounted for.
     

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    Certainly rape is committed by both sexes, and is always wrong. It is also true, as far as we know, that men are much more likely to force themselves upon women than the other way around. It makes sense to target the education to those that need educating.
    As far as we know, yes. The problem is, our knowledge of the issue is very poor. That may well be the case, or it may be a lot more equal than we thought. I hear a lot of estimates about instances of unreported rape, I have no idea what the numbers are for that (obviously, nobody does). I know that the stigma is definitely there for men not to report it. It's seen as weakness and some people refuse to even acknowledge it exists. I think if we're going to make it a point to specifically educate people about rape in particular, we need to start with the knowledge that we don't really know the numbers because a lot of it goes unreported and make no assumptions. I don't think it's much to ask to treat both sexes equally in this kind of education.
     

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    I see where you're coming from with regards to the notion of taking responsibility for the state you get yourself in but to apply this to rape is wrong. You just can't compare it to getting jacked/tripping over and smashing your nose because of your drinking, for example. It takes personal violation to a level beyond which personal accountability can be accounted for.

    How could it not apply to rape? Every decision that you make, every action that you take (or don't take) affects what happens to you. Everywhere and always, this is true.

    Let's look at concrete actions that can be taken to avoid being raped. A woman can choose to:
    • Stay out of bad neighborhoods - ask a male friend to pick up your weed for you or travel in a group, take a longer route to the grocery store that doesn't require you to be in the hood.
    • Stay away from bad men - you can't always tell who is violent, but sometimes you can, though you'll never reach a conclusion if you don't attempt to gather data.
    • Don't get trashed to the point where you can't walk at a party full of strangers - know your limits.
    • Buy a can of mace or take martial arts, and maintain vigilance - be proactive about your personal safety, learn the ways that you can defend yourself against someone bigger and stronger than yourself.
    Obviously, there are going to be situations out of one's control. But this is absolutely no excuse for not taking measures to ensure your well-being. The victim mentality is the most pervasive and most destructive mental attitude that I have ever witnessed, not to mention that it is completely out of touch with reality.

    Every human being, and in fact every object, is both a whole entity, and a part of a larger entity. Which means that every human being has both rights, as a independent agent, and responsibilities, as a part of a larger whole. Applied directly to this context, that statement sounds something like this: Every woman has a right to live in a world where she doesn't have to fear being raped. Every woman also has a responsibility to do whatever she is able to avoid being raped.
     
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    This is what I heard, so treat it as the feminine version of broscience, but most rape happens between people who know each other. What comes to mind is douchey boyfriend taking advantage of girl. I can't imagine how I could rape my current girlfriend (because there's communication in a relationship), but apparently it's a thing. Perhaps someone can try to fill us in on an archetypal people-who-know-each-other rape situation.

    That being said, yes. A victim mentality is incredibly destructive. It's something I see on the forum (not necessarily tied to rape and sexual issues, i haven't encountered it in that specific context), and I'll admit that I've been tempted by it before and it's one of the reasons I avoid certain threads and posts. It's a sorry but very addictive excuse for inaction.
     

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    How could it not apply to rape? Every decision that you make, every action that you take (or don't take) affects what happens to you. Everywhere and always, this is true.

    Of course it does, but we should be focusing on how the action of rape (and then consequently how someone should have chose not to ♥♥♥♥ing rape someone) should be focused more then a victim not getting drunk or something.

    Would you say that someone who walked the street on the sidewalk during the night because they needed to get home at fault for getting hit by a drunk driver? Should they have not walked home at night? Should they have stayed home?

    Let's look at concrete actions that can be taken to avoid being raped. A woman can choose to:
    • Stay out of bad neighborhoods - ask a male friend to pick up your weed for you or travel in a group, take a longer route to the grocery store that doesn't require you to be in the hood.
    • Stay away from bad men - you can't always tell who is violent, but sometimes you can, though you'll never reach a conclusion if you don't attempt to gather data.
    • Don't get trashed to the point where you can't walk at a party full of strangers - know your limits.
    • Buy a can of mace or take martial arts, and maintain vigilance - be proactive about your personal safety, learn the ways that you can defend yourself against someone bigger and stronger than yourself.
    This roughly translates to something similar.

    Women: Fear every moment of your life that there will be a rapist waiting for you. Please reconsider what you are saying. This doesn't even touch on the fact that The majority of offenders are people the victims know.

    The victim mentality is the most pervasive and most destructive mental attitude that I have ever witnessed, not to mention that it is completely out of touch with reality.

    It's not so much a victim mentality as much as people are trying to be respectful of people who have gone through a trauma. Is a woman who was raped somehow not a victim? This is incredible.

    Every woman has a right to live in a world where she doesn't have to fear being raped. Every woman also has a responsibility to do whatever she is able to avoid being raped.

    Yet no mention on how every offender shouldn't rape somebody.
     

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    I don't think a group of individuals should be forcibly educated on something only a fraction of them are guilty of.

    And John, in that state of mind I knew a girl who may of been under that circumstance. When I knew her she dated a guy three and a half years older than her, and now that's she's away she tells me "he was the devil". <_>
     

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    Of course it does, but we should be focusing on how the action of rape (and then consequently how someone should have chose not to ♥♥♥♥ing rape someone) should be focused more then a victim not getting drunk or something.

    Would you say that someone who walked the street on the sidewalk during the night because they needed to get home at fault for getting hit by a drunk driver? Should they have not walked home at night? Should they have stayed home?


    We disagree on the relative importance of circumstances vs personal decisions.


    This roughly translates to something similar.

    Women: Fear every moment of your life that there will be a rapist waiting for you. Please reconsider what you are saying. This doesn't even touch on the fact that The majority of offenders are people the victims know.

    You appear to be saying that people either can't or shouldn't do anything to help themselves. I disagree with that position.

    It's not so much a victim mentality as much as people are trying to be respectful of people who have gone through a trauma. Is a woman who was raped somehow not a victim? This is incredible.



    Yet no mention on how every offender shouldn't rape somebody.

    I thought it was clear what 'victim mentality' means. I was wrong.

    We agree that rape is wrong.


    This is the end of our discussion about rape, because I am not going to continue it any farther. Oops, I broke your game... I forgot to get mad at you. Sorry dude :(

    Can we get back to discussing feminism now?
     
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    We disagree on the relative importance of circumstances vs personal decisions.

    What does this mean?

    You appear to be saying that people either can't or shouldn't do anything to help themselves. I disagree.

    I'm saying that we shouldn't be focusing on how people can help themselves, but rather we should be societally focusing on working to get men to stop raping women period. Not prevention through personal decisions of potential victims, but stopping it at the source entirely.

    I thought it was clear what a 'victim mentality' means. I was wrong.

    Then would you mind explaining it? You weren't very clear.

    This is the end of our discussion about rape, because I am not going to continue it any farther. Oops, I broke your game... I forgot to get mad at you. Sorry dude :(

    What does the latter half of this even mean?

    Can we get back to discussing feminism now?

    Rape, considering it is mostly done against the female population, does tie in with feminism. So I'm not sure what your point here is.

    I don't think a group of individuals should be forcibly educated on something only a fraction of them are guilty of.

    How... How else are we going to educate the fraction of them who might assault somebody? This isn't even stepping in to the fact that the plan isn't to forcibly educate people - we're not going to run up to every man on the street and go HEY YOU MIGHT RAPE SOMEBODY HERE'S A PAMPHLET or something. Rather it's little things, like teaching children in school that consent is INCREDIBLY important for sex is a good starter.

    but really though? "Don't educate a group only because a fraction does it"? The priorities in that sentence seem odd to me when we're talking about prevention of sexual assault.
     
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    I think people with a victim mentality tend to see themselves as objects (one is "victimized", they get the act of victimizing done onto them) and I think it's a perspective that tends to neglect the power of agency. I don't think it was a reference to rape victims, but more so the mentality that frames the issue of rape as women being at the whims of rapey men, and the women who subscribe to that tend to do the whole fingerpointing thing at rapey men which is all fine and dandy but doesn't get you anywhere when you're face to face with a rapey man. I think those who advocate for personal responsibility wouldn't point fingers at a rape victim and say "why didn't you fight harder", but would more rather believe that everybody is happier when a woman gtfo/beats him off/removes herself from a dangerous situation because she was vigilant and saw it coming before it did.

    at least one of those sentences probably made no grammatical sense lol
     

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    People who rape should be responsible for their rapes. Culture teaches people not to rape via laws and prison sentences. I know there's probably a better method, but I can't honestly think of it at this time - there's probably a deeper, more systemic issue.

    As it stands though men should not be held responsible for rape. People who rape should be held responsible. People in general should understand that raping people is wrong. And yes, women can rape too.

    I don't really agree with "preventing the situation first" issue since it's more than just "getting yourself in a bad situation". Not all rapes are caused by those kinds of situations, and those kinds of situations don't necessarily lead to rape. Instead, I think it's important to remember that it's the rapist who is the offender here, and the rapist should deal with the consequences of raping someone. Blaming the victim ignores that the rapist raped at all. What is really appalling is that quite a few times women rapists get off the hook easier than men because people blame men's sexuality and all that. Which is kind of insane.
     
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