I suppose I wasn't very clear, but I'm a huge supporter of education period. I said we have to educate the entire male population instead of being stagnant and just teaching a few because "only a few do it". It makes perfect sense that
everybody should be educated as well :) I mean the majority of rapists are men it just seems natural for the discussion to be centred around it. Sorry for not being clear I guess?
e: I'm diving in
People who rape should be responsible for their rapes. Culture teaches people not to rape via laws and prison sentences. I know there's probably a better method, but I can't honestly think of it at this time - there's probably a deeper, more systemic issue.
Ding! I think this is spot-on. I mean most normal people are already completely aware that rape is bad and our society doesn't say that we can necessarily
get away with it. We have legal statutes in place to protect and punish people. That being said, it's still happening to such a degree. People aren't reporting as well, so there
has to be a systemic issue with it.
As it stands though men should not be held responsible for rape. People who rape should be held responsible. People in general should understand that raping people is wrong. And yes, women can rape too.
I'll agree, because it's true, but offer something in turn. The overwhelming majority of rapists are men. It's not to say female rapists don't exist, but common sense tells us more men rape then women. Now if we can't exact proper punishment for a male rapist despite them being more widespread and common, how do we crush the idea that women can rape as well? It seems really frivolous to me to go
"WELL WHAT ABOUT FEMALE RAPISTS" during this sort of discussion because they're such a non-issue in comparison to the male ones? That's a really harsh way of wording it but, as a society are more inclined to worry about men being rapists than women.
idk it's just grating when people go NOT ALL MEN RAPE AND WOMEN RAPE TOO as a defence mechanism because people who are trying to explain how rape works in our society are already completely well aware.
I don't really agree with "preventing the situation first" issue since it's more than just "getting yourself in a bad situation". Not all rapes are caused by those kinds of situations, and those kinds of situations don't necessarily lead to rape. Instead, I think it's important to remember that it's the rapist who is the offender here, and the rapist should deal with the consequences of raping someone. Blaming the victim ignores that the rapist raped at all. What is really appalling is that quite a few times women rapists get off the hook easier than men because people blame men's sexuality and all that. Which is kind of insane.
A+ I encourage everyone to read this. I've never personally heard of the last part happening (Although I can't say I wouldn't be very surprised) but yeah, that's something we societally have to do about gender roles and rape period. Like I said, if we can't take a female victim seriously, and then consequently go "she should have done x/y/z" to defend herself, how do we take men seriously?
Yes it's the rapists fault completely but even with strict prison sentences and intensive education I think there will be sick people who prey upon others, or those that are somehow impaired by alcohol or drugs. Rape will always be a danger. As such, I agree with an above poster that everyone should attempt to minimise the risk they are willing to expose themselves to.
I just wanted to make it clear because the other poster certainly alluded to it that I'm not saying people shouldn't defend themselves. The way our society is we have to defend ourselves, but applying that as an
excuse or a
reason to why someone got raped is wrong. That was my point.
It's not untrue that most men would like to have sex, especially if the woman is attractive. Even if the woman is completely repulsive and rape was the only way she could have intercourse a female rapist could easily play to the stereotype that of course only men are the ones who are sexually charged while women are uninterested, defenceless victims... I am sexually charged but I know not to rape anyone, unfortunately a few evil men do not know this and give us all a bad name.
I don't get the first bit but regarding the latter, that's just something that you need to deal with, really. I mean I'm
gay and some women still glance at me when they think I'm getting to close to a point where they're uncomfortable or whatever. Bad apple spoils the bunch? Yeah. But in my mind I know I'm not a rapist so having girls wary of me and being careful doesn't hurt my ego lol. Men have a bad name, yes, but if you know you're a good person I don't see why that bothers you.
Was this supposed to relate to feminism or something?
Women are constantly getting raped? How does it not relate to feminism? It's a bit more of a broad topic but it still holds to the fundamental ideas of feminism at its core.
Update: Is there anything wrong with being nice and a 'gentlemen' for the purpose of desiring sex? Admittedly it's not the most noble of reasons but as long as you don't rape anyone I don't think there's anything wrong with that... Being abusive when you get rejected from a woman who you treat nicely and therefore would wish to have sex with is not acceptable, but if you act maturely, accept your failure and just move on I don't see a problem. I don't expect sex from women, but y'know, if you want to do it that would be great.
Nothing particularly "wrong" with it as long as you're not getting to levels of downright chauvinism but it is insanely shallow if you only put on your "gentleman" persona to get sex and you act differently in your day-to-day. Different people like different things though. Some people really like a gentleman, and some people really just want to focus on looks. Everyone has different preferences, and that's something that makes us a little more interesting.